“Why did Father Christmas bring my friend more?”
A comparison at school can feel personal. Answer the hurt without turning gifts into a measure of a child’s behaviour.
Ask what the friend said and what your child is really missing. They might want the same toy, feel embarrassed about telling classmates what they received, or worry that Father Christmas liked someone else more. Each feeling needs a slightly different response.
Avoid a reward story
Presents do not prove who has been “good”. Families have different budgets, relatives and gift habits. You need not describe another household’s finances. You can say what your household chose to do and reassure your child that the number of parcels says nothing about their worth.
“I’m sorry that hurt. Every family gives differently. We chose these presents for you, and you haven’t done anything wrong.” If the child still wants the other toy, acknowledge that wish. You can discuss a birthday or saving plan later without promising to make the difference disappear tonight.